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Quotations about Homosexuality,
Bisexuality, Gender Diversity, and
Words of Comfort & Encouragement
NOTE: Some of the quotes on this page were submitted to me by visitors, and not all have been verified for original source or wording. I'm working hard to confirm everything, but in the meantime please be aware of the possibility for errors. —ღ Terri, March 2021
When I was in the military they gave me a medal for killing two men and a discharge for loving one. ~Epitaph of Leonard P. Matlovich, 1988
If gay and lesbian people are given civil rights, then everyone will want them! ~Author unknown, as seen on a button at EvolveFISH.com, c. 1998
There are six admonishments in the Bible concerning homosexual activity, and our enemies are always throwing them up to us usually in a vicious way and very much out of context. What they don't want us to remember is that there are 362 admonishments in the Bible concerning heterosexual activity. I don't mean to imply by this that God doesn't love straight people, only that they seem to require a great deal more supervision. ~Lynn Lavner, Butch Fatale, 1992
Being gay is natural. Hating gay is a lifestyle choice. ~John Fugelsang, @JohnFugelsang, tweet, 2013
Sex or station, clime or zone,
These to love are all unknown.
~Simeon Carter (1824–1911), Poems and Aphorisms: A Woodman's Musings, 1893
"You're a lesbian?" Mercury mocked her.
"Actually, no. I'm myself." Sparks crackled in Frazier's green eyes. "I'll love whom I choose and work as I choose and as long as I treat people with respect and politeness I don't think what I do is anyone's [g*d@m] business... I became a lesbian out of devout Christian charity. All those women out there are praying for a man and I gave them my share." ~Rita Mae Brown, Venus Envy, 1993
You don't have to be straight to be in the military; you just have to be able to shoot straight. ~Barry Goldwater (1909–1998)
Why is it that, as a culture, we are more comfortable seeing two men holding guns than holding hands? ~Ernest Gaines
Don't hide behind the Constitution or the Bible. If you're against gay marriage, just be honest, put a scarlet 'H' on your shirt, and say, "I am a homophobe!" ~Henry Rollins (b.1961)
Homosexuality is god's way of insuring that the truly gifted aren't burdened with children. ~Sam Austin, 1988
Isn't it a violation of the Georgia sodomy law for the Supreme Court to have its head up its ass? ~Letter to Playboy magazine, February 1987
Who would give a law to lovers? Love is unto itself a higher law. ~Boethius, The Consolation of Philosophy, A.D. 524
No government has the right to tell its citizens when or whom to love. The only queer people are those who don't love anybody. ~Rita Mae Brown, speech, 1982 August 28th
You could move. ~Abigail Van Buren, "Dear Abby," 1979, in response to a reader who complained that a gay couple moved in across the street and asked for advice on how to improve the quality of the "once respectable" neighborhood
War. Rape. Murder. Poverty. Equal rights for gays. Guess which one the Southern Baptist Convention is protesting? ~The Value of Families
If time and space are curved, where do all of the straight people come from? ~Author unknown
If you fall in love with a boy, you fall in love with a boy. The fact that Americans consider it a disease says more about them than it does about homosexuality. ~James Baldwin, "Disturber of the Peace," interview with Eve Auchincloss and Nancy Lynch, 1969
If homosexuality is a disease, let's all call in queer to work: "Hello. Can't work today, still queer." ~Robin Tyler
That word "lesbian" sounds like a disease. And straight men know because they're sure that they're the cure. ~Denise McCanles
What is straight? A line can be straight, or a street, but the human heart, oh, no, it's curved like a road through mountains. ~Tennessee Williams, A Streetcar Named Desire, 1947
There is nothing wrong with going to bed with someone of your own sex. People should be very free with sex, they should draw the line at goats. ~Elton John (b.1947)
I'd rather be black than gay because when you're black you don't have to tell your mother. ~Charles Pierce, 1980
The radical right is so homophobic that they're blaming global warming on the AIDS quilt. ~Dennis Miller, Tonight Show, 1995
My own belief is that there is hardly anyone whose sexual life, if it were broadcast, would not fill the world at large with surprise and horror. ~W. Somerset Maugham (1874–1965)
I'm a supporter of gay rights. And not a closet supporter either. From the time I was a kid, I have never been able to understand attacks upon the gay community. There are so many qualities that make up a human being... by the time I get through with all the things that I really admire about people, what they do with their private parts is probably so low on the list that it is irrelevant. ~Paul Newman (1925–2008)
This is so hard. I think I've realized that I am… I can't even say the word. Why can't I say the word? Why do I have to be so ashamed? Why can't I just say the truth, be who I am? I'm so afraid to tell people. I mean, I just… Susan… I'm gay! ~Ellen, "The Puppy Episode," S4, E22, 1997, written by Ellen DeGeneres, Mark Driscoll, Dava Savel, Tracy Newman, and Jonathan Stark [a little altered –tg]
From various bumper stickers, late 1990s:
— My sexual orientation? Horizontal, usually.
— I can't even think straight.
— Let's get one thing straight, I'm not.
— Straight But Not Narrow
— Closets are for clothes.
— I'm not a lesbian but my girlfriend is.
— I'm not gay but my boyfriend is.
— Equal rights are not special rights.
— Homophobia is a social disease.
— My sexual preference is often.
I am reminded of a colleague who reiterated "all my homosexual patients are quite sick" — to which I finally replied "so are all my heterosexual patients." ~Ernest van den Haag (1914–2002)
For a long time I thought I wanted to be a nun. Then I realized that what I really wanted to be was a lesbian. ~Mabel Maney (b.1958)
When it comes to exploring the sea of love, I prefer buoys. ~Andrew Grant Dehel (b.1967), "Drew's Home Page," c.1998
The degree and kind of a man's sexuality reach up into the ultimate pinnacle of his spirit. ~Friedrich Nietzsche, Beyond Good and Evil, 1886
If male homosexuals are called "gay," then female homosexuals should be called "ecstatic." ~Shelly Roberts
My mother took me to a psychiatrist when I was fifteen because she thought I was a latent homosexual. There was nothing latent about it. ~Amanda Bearse (b.1958)
One should no more deplore homosexuality than left-handedness. ~Towards a Quaker View of Sex, 1964
The one bonus of not lifting the ban on gays in the military is that the next time the government mandates a draft we can all declare homosexuality instead of running off to Canada. ~Lorne Bloch
I have the solution to the "problem" of gays in the military: Soldiers who are not afraid of guns, bombs, capture, torture, or death say they are afraid of homosexuals. Clearly, we should not be used as soldiers; we should be used as weapons. ~Robert Patrick, Los Angeles, California, letter to the editor, The Advocate, 1993, in response to "Ban-boozled" article in issue 637
People who can't think of anything else but whether the person you love is convex or concave should be doomed to not think of anything else, and so miss the other ninety-five percent of life. ~Robert Towne, 1982
It always seemed to me a bit pointless to disapprove of homosexuality. It's like disapproving of rain. ~Francis Maude, in Daily Telegraph, 1998
To hear two American men congratulating each other on being heterosexual is one of the most chilling experiences — and unique to the United States. You don't hear two Italians sitting around complimenting each other because they actually like to go to bed with women. The American is hysterical about his manhood. ~Gore Vidal (1925–2012)
There's this illusion that homosexuals have sex and heterosexuals fall in love. That's completely untrue. Everybody wants to be loved. ~Boy George (b.1961)
Straight Americans need... an education of the heart and soul. They must understand — to begin with — how it can feel to spend years denying your own deepest truths, to sit silently through classes, meals, and church services while people you love toss off remarks that brutalize your soul. ~Bruce Bawer, The Advocate, 1998 April 28th
This rhetoric used by supporters of HF 2183 may be slick but it is grossly inaccurate. What are you trying to protect heterosexual marriages from? There isn't a limited amount of love in Iowa. It isn't a non-renewable resource. If Amy and Barbara or Mike or Steve love each other, it doesn't mean that John and Mary can't. Marriage licenses aren't distributed on a first-come, first-served basis here in Iowa. Heterosexual couples don't have to rush out and claim marriage licenses now, before they are all snatched up by gay and lesbian couples. Heterosexual unions are and will continue to be predominant, regardless of what gay and lesbian couples do. To suggest that homosexual couples in any way, shape or form threaten to undermine the stability of heterosexual unions is patently absurd... All that gay and lesbian people are asking for is, if not understanding, then at least tolerance. All they are asking for is the same basic civil equality that all Americans yearn for and should be entitled to. ~Ed Fallon, speech, 1996
People sometimes think I'm gay because I once played a gay in a movie. It's funny. Audiences don't think you're a murderer if you play a murderer, but they do think you're gay if you play a gay. ~Perry King (b.1948)
I get sick of listening to straight people complain about, "Well, hey, we don't have a heterosexual-pride day, why do you need a gay-pride day?" I remember when I was a kid I'd always ask my mom: "Why don't we have a Kid's Day? We have a Mother's Day and a Father's Day, but why don't we have a Kid's Day?" My mom would always say, "Every day is Kid's Day." To all those heterosexuals that bitch about gay pride, I say the same thing: Every day is heterosexual-pride day! Can't you people enjoy your banquet and not piss on those of us enjoying our crumbs over here in the corner? ~Rob Nash
Wouldn't it be great if you could only get AIDS from giving money to television preachers? ~Elayne Boosler (b.1952)
In itself, homosexuality is as limiting as heterosexuality: the ideal should be to be capable of loving a woman or a man; either, a human being, without feeling fear, restraint, or obligation. ~Simone de Beauvoir (1908–1986)
Bisexuality immediately doubles your chances for a date on Saturday night. ~Woody Allen (b.1935)
The world is not divided into sheeps and goats. Not all things are black nor all things white. It is a fundamental of taxonomy that nature rarely deals with discrete categories. Only the human mind invents categories and tries to force facts into separated pigeon-holes. The living world is a continuum in each and every one of its aspects. The sooner we learn this concerning sexual behavior the sooner we shall reach a sound understanding of the realities of sex. ~Alfred Kinsey, Sexual Behavior in the Human Male, 1948
Labels are for filing. Labels are for clothing. Labels are not for people. ~Martina Navratilova (b.1956)
The Urning is a sport of nature; his bodily structure is that of a man, but his sexual instincts are those of a woman. A woman's soul dwells in this man's body, anima muliebris virili corpore inclusa. As a result of his inborn nature, he feels himself drawn by sexual desire to male individuals exclusively; his feeling toward females is either indifference or repugnance. At least one man in every 500 may be an Urning. Fellow Urnings can usually recognise each other. ~Karl Heinrich Ulrichs, c.1864, translated and paraphrased from "Forschungen über das Räthsel der mannmännlichen Liebe (Research into the Riddle of Man-Male Love)"
[Ulrichs, a lawyer and Urning himself, originally published in Germany under the pseudonym Numa Numantius. "Uranian" is a slightly later term that also refers to a person of a third sex — originally, like Ulrichs' concept, someone with a female psyche in a male body sexually attracted to men, but later encompassing homosexual gender variant females and other sexual types. It is most likely an English adaptation of Ulrichs' German word "Urning." Ulrich developed his terminology before the first public use of the words "homosexual" and "heterosexual," which appeared a few years later by Hungarian author Kertbeny. "Urning" was derived from the Greek goddess Aphrodite Urania who was created from Uranus' testicles, and Aphrodite Dionea — "Dioning" — represented the heterosexual gender. "Uranian" was used by homosexual emancipation advocates in the Victorian era, to describe a comradely love that would break down class and gender barriers. It's also used to describe pæderastic poetry and art from the late 1800s and early 1900s. Example — Love in Earnest: Some Notes on the Lives and Writings of English Uranian Poets from 1889 to 1930, by Timothy D'Arch Smith, 1970. —tεᖇᖇ¡·g]
The important thing is not the object of love, but the emotion itself. ~Gore Vidal (1925–2012)
My cousin is an agoraphobic homosexual, which makes it kind of hard for him to come out of the closet. ~Bill Kelly
As long as society is anti-gay, then it will seem like being gay is anti-social. ~Joseph Francis
My mom blames California for me being a lesbian. "Everything was fine until you moved out there." "That's right, Mom, we have mandatory lesbianism in West Hollywood. The Gay Patrol busted me, and I was given seven business days to add a significant amount of flannel to my wardrobe." ~Coley Sohn
We love men. We just don't want to see them naked. ~Two Nice Girls
If Michelangelo had been straight, the Sistine Chapel would have been painted basic white with a roller. ~Rita Mae Brown
If you removed all of the homosexuals and homosexual influence from what is generally regarded as American culture, you would pretty much be left with "Let's Make a Deal." ~Fran Lebowitz (b.1950)
About a year ago I was a guest on a network news show in New York. They were showing film clips from a gay pride parade down Fifth Avenue, but they only decided to show the part with men in dresses and heels. I had seen the parade, and there were men in business suits as well. After showing the film, the newsperson made some comments, and I found the comments extremely offensive. "This is what's wrong with the media," I said. "You show a fringe position. You show one point of view. You're closing the minds of the people by not showing them what the reality is." I got up and walked out, and I've never been asked back again. ~Kathleen Nolan (b.1933)
If adjustment is necessary, it should be made primarily with regard to the position the homosexual occupies in present-day society, and society should more often be treated than the homosexual. ~Dr. Harry Benjamin, psychotherapist, 1988
In an expanding universe, time is on the side of the outcast. Those who once inhabited the suburbs of human contempt find that without changing their address they eventually live in the metropolis. ~Quentin Crisp, The Naked Civil Servant, 1978
Beyond the executive branch's draconian outreach the Reagan administration has fostered a climate in which a barest majority of the Supreme Court caters to the passions and hatreds of the American mob, stripping away the constitutional shield outside our bedrooms and the freedom of commercial speech about products that we may like, or hate.
A sort of mob psychology — homophobia they call it — takes over when Americans see TV pictures of two men going down the street hugging and kissing each other....
The court's sodomy decision opening the doors of boudoirs to Big Brothers is outrageous, and a goosebump reminder that we Americans are drifting ever so relentlessly toward police-state status....
How tragically ironic that an administration that promised to get government "off our backs" is now so active in draping government gumshoes over every part of our anatomies.
It is time we threw the executive-branch zealots out of the saddle and began praying that the man who promised to take government off our backs will not get another chance to make the Supreme Court the great American oppressor.
~Carl T. Rowan, Chicago Sun-Times, July 1986 [This syndicated article had various titles in various newspapers — More Government On Backs of People, Old Uncle Ron Becomes a Burden, Five Justices Crumble, &c.—tεᖇᖇ¡·g]
An engineering professor is treating her husband, a loan officer, to dinner for finally giving in to her pleas to shave off the scraggly beard he grew on vacation. His favorite restaurant is a casual place where they both feel comfortable in slacks and cotton/polyester-blend golf shirts. But, as always, she wears the gold and pearl pendant he gave her the day her divorce decree was final. They're laughing over their menus because they know he always ends up diving into a giant plate of ribs but she won't be talked into anything more fattening than shrimp.
Quiz: How many biblical prohibitions are they violating? Well, wives are supposed to be 'submissive' to their husbands (I Peter 3:1). And all women are forbidden to teach men (I Timothy 2:12), wear gold or pearls (I Timothy 2:9) or dress in clothing that 'pertains to a man' (Deuteronomy 22:5). Shellfish and pork are definitely out (Leviticus 11:7, 10) as are usury (Deuteronomy 23:19), shaving (Leviticus 19:27) and clothes of more than one fabric (Leviticus 19:19). And since the Bible rarely recognizes divorce, they're committing adultery, which carries the rather harsh penalty of death by stoning (Deuteronomy 22:22).
So why are they having such a good time? Probably because they wouldn't think of worrying about rules that seem absurd, anachronistic or — at best — unrealistic. Yet this same modern-day couple could easily be among the millions of Americans who never hesitate to lean on the Bible to justify their own anti-gay attitudes. ~Deb Price, And Say Hi To Joyce, 1995
The Lord is my Shepherd and he knows I'm gay. ~Troy Perry (b.1940)
This gentleman I will refer to as Herr N. suffers from perverted sexual feelings as well as nervous symptoms. He remembers when only six years old the sight of naked men in a bath gave him a peculiar pleasure. Growing up he found no pleasure in the occupations and sports of his comrades. He has an insuperable abhorrence of sexual connection with women. His brother once took him to a brothel, but he ran from the place in disgust. His speech and gesture are strikingly theatrical.
After spending a time in the country (on account of the delicacy of his health) at a monastical institution for convict boys, he now conducts one of the best establishments in Vienna for ladies' dresses and millinery, his particular specialty being ladies' bonnets. He possesses singular taste and skill in designing new shapes and arrangements. He spends his days among women, and he has often invoked the aid of imagination to induce a normal sexual desire; many a time, indeed, he has thought he has succeeded, but the next moment all his old horror has returned. It is men who appear in his dreams, but if women do appear they turn into men at the last moment.
He also complains of losing sometimes the power to control his thoughts. Ideas present themselves which he is unable to banish (Zwangsvorstellungen). Thus there are times when, notwithstanding his inward strivings against it, his highest most noble thoughts are burst in upon and jostled by the very lewdest and basest of ideas. He confirms the statement, repeatedly made by others, that individuals affected with this abnormality are able to recognise one another.
I have no intention to enter at any length into historical or ethnographical considerations, but I may just mention the boy-loves (pæderastia) of the Greeks and their Lesbian-loves, a parallel to which exists in the history of other peoples. It is, then, at least, probable that these practices are, in part, attributable to the anomalous development of the sexual instinct. In all the cases the abnormal inclination towards individuals of the same sex was congenital (angeboren), that is to say, present at the first awakening of the sexual desire, and constant thereafter.
~Dr. Julius Krueg, Physician to the Private Lunatic Asylum, Ober Döbling, Vienna, "Perverted Sexual Instincts," in Brain: A Journal of Neurology, 1881 [abridged —tg]
I like my beer cold, my TV loud, and my homosexuals flaming. ~Matt Groening & Ron Hauge, The Simpsons, "Homer's Phobia," 1997
— He prefers the company of men.
— Who doesn't?
~Matt Groening & Ron Hauge, The Simpsons, "Homer's Phobia," 1997
Thus, while many minority groups are the target for prejudice (beliefs) and discrimination (actions) in our society, few persons face this hostility without the support and acceptance of their family as do many gay, lesbian, and bisexual youth. ~Virginia Uribe and Karen M. Harbeck, 1992
It seems certain that a femininely functioning brain can occupy a male body, and vice versa. ~Jas G. Kiernan, M.D., "Psychological Aspects of the Sexual Appetite," read before the Chicago Academy of Medicine, 1891, reprinted in The Alienist and Neurologist: A Quarterly Journal of Scientific, Clinical and Forensic Psychiatry and Neurology, Intended Especially to Subserve the Wants of the General Practitioner of Medicine
About seventeen years old the beautiful girl exhibited an errabund tendency. She displayed great liking for boyish games and attire, but a repugnance to suitors. She preferred muscular sports and labor. She was averse to the attentions of young men and preferred the society of her own sex. On being abandoned by her husband from a forced marriage, she went West, assumed masculine attire, became a hunter, and spent several years among the Indians. On her return she sought refuge in an almshouse, and entered a mutual attachment with another patient. The two took up their abode in the woods as husband and wife. The second patient assumed the name of "Joe," and provided for the two. In 1876 they returned, the wife introducing her "husband" to her uncle. She was kindly received, and her husband was hired to work about the place. One day "Joe" was found to be a woman in disguise, whereupon her uncle was indignant and caused "Joe's" arrest. She was imprisoned for four months, during which time the "wife" visited her. At length the neighbors prevailed upon the uncle to have the young woman released. When she came out of prison she lived with her "wife" again. Later the "husband" was admitted to the Willard Hospital for the Insane in consequence of a maniacal attack. ~Dr. P. A. Wise of New York, Alienist and Neurologist, 1883 [abridged —tg]
Let my lusts be my ruin, then, since all else is a fake and a mockery. ~Hart Crane
There came a time when the risk to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. ~Anaïs Nin
God hath given you one face, and you make yourselves another. ~William Shakespeare, Hamlet, c.1600 [III, 1, Hamlet]
Hateful to me as the gates of Hades is that man who hides one thing in his heart and speaks another. ~Homer
Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself. ~Harvey Fierstein
There is just one life for each of us: our own. ~Euripides
Never apologize for showing feeling. When you do so, you apologize for the truth. ~Benjamin Disraeli
Every time you don't follow your inner guidance, you feel a loss of energy, loss of power, a sense of spiritual deadness. ~Shakti Gawain
The most exhausting thing in life is being insincere. ~Anne Morrow Lindbergh
If you are ashamed to stand by your colors, you had better seek another flag. ~Author Unknown
Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind! ~Author unknown [First part is unknown author, circa 2000; second part is unknown author circa 1930s, see quoteinvestigator.com/2012/12/04/those-who-mind]
Men weary as much of not doing the things they want to do as of doing the things they do not want to do. ~Eric Hoffer
The white light streams down to be broken up by those human prisms into all the colors of the rainbow. Take your own color in the pattern and be just that. ~Charles R. Brown
Resolve to be thyself; and know that he who finds himself, loses his misery. ~Matthew Arnold, "Self-Dependence," Empedocles on Etna, and Other Poems, 1852
There's a period of life when we swallow a knowledge of ourselves and it becomes either good or sour inside. ~Pearl Bailey
It's a helluva start, being able to recognize what makes you happy. ~Lucille Ball
For most men life is a search for the proper manila envelope in which to get themselves filed. ~Clifton Fadiman
You'll never find peace of mind until you listen to your heart. ~George Michael, "Kissing A Fool"
You know what they say: You can't teach a gay dog straight tricks. ~South Park, "Big Gay Al's Big Gay Boat Ride," 1997, written by Trey Parker, Matt Stone, & Dan Sterling [S1, E4, Chef —tg]
To know what you prefer, instead of humbly saying "Amen" to what the world tells you you ought to prefer, is to keep your soul alive. ~Robert Louis Stevenson
The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself. ~Friedrich Nietzsche
My theory is that the hardest work anyone does in life is to appear normal. ~From the movie Ed TV, 1999
The plague of mankind is the fear and rejection of diversity: monotheism, monarchy, monogamy and, in our age, monomedicine. The belief that there is only one right way to live, only one right way to regulate religious, political, sexual, medical affairs is the root cause of the greatest threat to man: members of his own species, bent on ensuring his salvation, security, and sanity. ~Thomas Szasz
Original post date 1998 March 18th
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